Today is my grandmother's birthday, although she died a couple of years ago. She was a most unusual grandmother in the sense that she didn't necessarily like children yet would do whatever she could for us. I spent many an hour with her, especially when I got old enough to drive, because although she had a driver's license, she stopped driving when I was fairly young. (It was for the best, I assure you.) So I'd drive her to the doctor and to visit her brother's nursing home and to the Bojangle's drive through.
When I was in South Carolina in August, I was able to get some of her things. One thing I somehow ended up with is a hymn book from the old Rock Hill Ward. Inside that hymnbook she collected things, including programs for various baptisms, funerals and sacrament meetings. But I also came across this poem, which was in a Dear Abby column that ran July 3, 1993. It's sad, but I'd like to think she saved it to share with a friend whose husband had died.
One or the other must leave,
One or the other must stay,
One or ther other must grieve,
That is forever the way.
That is the vow that was sworn,
Faithful 'til death do us part.
Braving what had to be borne,
Hiding the ache in the heart.
One, however adored,
First must be summoned away.
That is the will of the Lord,
One or the other must stay.
I like my hymnbooks clean, untattered and with intact pages. The one I got from her is somewhat yellowed. But I think about it whenever we go to church here because most of the ones in our chapel look a lot more like hers than my ideal. Well-loved, I guess.